Why do the same people continuously feel the need to maliciously attack every day?

I've wondered the same thing, and couldn't figure out why. It is the usual culprits, Heartssss, Aqua, nashi, Carrie, naby, Quilly, zipper (who has recently joined the crowd) and dutchee. But I've found an answer that has given me some peace.

Here's what I found: there are three general motives behind people talking badly about another person. 1. They're talking with someone to solve a problem they're having with the individual, but lack the skill to do it in a kind way. 2. They want to discredit the other person, or cause harm to the other person. Their motive is to hurt, or they feel they must defend themselves from hurt, so they hurt first. 3. They want to be accepted, so they find common humor, evil, etc. to talk about to make themselves feel better.

The first group: they talk about the problem, may go into detail, may exaggerate a little, but their motive is mainly to get an idea of how to solve the problem, and not to hurt the other person. They may talk inapropriately, or in a way that may leave a negative light on the person they're talking about, but its not hateful.

The second group: people who talk badly about another person to cause harm: They seem to feel like you have some major impact in their life, and they are scared of you. For example, a friend who feels like her life is determined by how much boys like her will often bad mouth another girl who the boys like more than her - or that she thinks they like more than her. She does this because she feels like she must manipulate the people around her to stay safe. If she took responsibility for her own actions, and her own ability to change, to act, she wouldn't feel so threatened by other people. So usually, people who talk maliciously are really very terrified people. They feel they must manipulate the people around them to be safe. They don't start by changing their own actions and choosing how they feel, they let life around them tell them who they are. Its a very threatened place to live.

Third group: they are people who are a combination of the two categories above. They talk about others because they have nothing better to do. They just talk without considering the people or friendships that will be damaged, its just entertainment.

Any other views on this?

This is the web. Why take it to heart to begin with?

merry christmas

It sure is the Web Endrin, that wasn't my question.

Nastiness online can erupt and go global overnight, and "no comment" doesn't cut it anymore. On the other hand, nastiness is quite a draw, the venom of crowds isn't new.

Where is all this headed?

Endrin ..nobody take it to heart ..is just for fun ...i suggest you try the same way : )))
Maggie

My question was misleading it seems. My question was intended as a thought and not to be answered. Maggie I tend to disagree with you because I know some do take it to heart or they would not over react. As for Meet's statement Im guessing its based on attention. Attention lacked in real life and made up in cyber world. If a person thats not the center of attention and needs it does things to attract it to them. Some seek attention no matter if its bad or good. The only drama in those lives is the drama they project. As for Lillie's post my question stems from the post's title which is beside the observation on hand. If you think about it logically and didnt take the web to heart to a certain extent why would you call them malicious acts? Why would people react to them? Why would people get hurt over them? After all these people making these outragous remarks have no clue what kind of person you truly are, right? My opinion people confuse both worlds at times and I would believe that is done out of human nature. Then others manipulate this to make themselves feel better.

......back to my answer.....

The Post title reads-
Why do the same people continuously feel the need to maliciously attack every day?

Angry with their lives, disappointments, failures etc. The only way some counter act with those scenarios is to be just like the title post reads. They feel a sense of dominance or a sense of achievement. It is a false one at that because of intent behind it. They struggle for social integration in the community (ie. this forum, chat areas etc.). Thus their lives' being nothing short of upsetting failures might explain the constant malicious attacks. On top of it all is not being able to turn it around or dealing with it on their own they look for vent holes to take out their emotions. Logically I have given one answer. Perhaps its an answer that is more than likely the real reason behind it I feel.

I believe it is human nature to do so whatever the reason. There are very few who post on this forum who are not guilty of ganging up and attacking another individual but I won't comment on that as the title suggests an open question.

Why do people do it? Many reasons! You can see the same behaviour in many aspects of life; The office, clubs, or any other scenario where groups of people meet. Yes it could be because there are deficiencies in the individuals' life. It could also be due to the history between the groups concerned. The latter is not a new concept and is often the cause of conflict.

If the reason for the post is to provoke a proper debate then I applaud it. If it has been started because an individual feels aggrieved then this is worthy of further discussion, perhaps in another thread.

OK Endrin i kinda agree with that
The Post title reads-
Why do the same people continuously feel the need to maliciously attack every day?

Angry with their lives, disappointments, failures etc...BUT take me as example ..i am not angry in my life .NOT so much disappointed .....BUT i like fight with people .....for me thats the fun thing .....look at Dutchee .....i dont give a shoe for him but i like attack him ...thats how i have fun in internet .way better than to be friendly with all .
If people get friendly with everybody will be so borring ....so i chose some people to be friendly with them and i chose some other to attack ..can you imagine every day to be nice with all ?!?!!?!?!!?!
where s the fun then ??

Meetme.

Please don't take this to heart, but there is one other explanation.

Maybe they just don't like you!

WOW thanks for letting me know foxthree. What a brilliant observation.!! Guess what, the feeling is mutual. I detest about 70% of these so called players, but I don't feel the need to continuously mention them or have dealings with them. Why have you singled me out?

First off, I want to make things clear to people who think they're trying to act smart on the internet. They are not, they're probably sitting in front of the computer spamming and flaming on others opinions.

Little kids should spend more time educating themselves rather than defending their adolescent testosterone driven fantasies

Looks like I better add you to the list!

LOL ok add me to any list you like. Glad I found another button to press. Thanks for the reaction.

Isn't it obvious why you were mentioned? You wrote the article because no doubt the list of names you have put forward were no doubt taking your name in vain again and you felt the need to comment on it. I am sure you didn't write it 'out of the blue' and it is likely that you wouldn't have written it had the listed names picked on someone else.

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Little kids should spend more time educating themselves rather than defending their adolescent testosterone driven fantasies

You sound a little upset.

Oh please, me upset!!! Would I have 'lolled' at the end if I was upset? I am really laughing at you. Thanks for that!

You are getting silly now foxthree and you for sure do not press anybody's buttons. Carry on dreaming if you think that is the case.

I asked a simple question and you have turned aggressive for some reason. You felt compelled to reply, was I button pressing?

You have once again gone way off the topic and I am glad you enjoyed my penultimate sentence in my previous post, if the cap fits wear it!